This simple line shares your inner world.
You are sharing it as your perspective—not the ultimate truth.
You’re not stating it as a fact or making an accusation—just naming the way something lands for you.

💛 “The story I tell myself when you bring me coffee is that you want to make me smile.”

It works for the good moments—and the more challenging ones:

👉 “The story I tell myself when you’re scrolling during dinner is that what I’m saying doesn’t matter to you.”
👉 “The story I tell myself when you cancel our plans last-minute is that I’m not a priority.”

This type of wording is powerful:
✨ It opens the door for real connection.
✨ It gives your spouse the chance to say, “Oh no—that’s not what’s going on at all.”
✨ It lets them understand you, not just react to your reaction.
💡 It’s a softer way to express hurt without turning your spouse into the bad guy.

It’s honest. It’s soft.
And it can help you express what’s going on for you in that moment.