How you come across to others is not so much about what you say or how you feel. It is so much more about how you make the other person feel about themselves in your presence. (affective presence)

Are you the best part of your spouse’s day? Do you lift their spirits or make them feel good about themselves?

People feel good in the company of someone who they feel really cares about them.

It all starts with a nonjudgmental mindset. This simply means to give others the benefit of the doubt and believing that everyone is genuinely trying to be the best version of themselves.

Really connecting includes being really present with them. Seeing them as they are; not as you want them to be. Believing in them. And letting them know how you admire them.