Feeling overwhelmed? Remember, it’s okay to ask for help. Here’s how:

Don’t wait until you are overwhelmed or frantic (and possibly cranky). Ask early; this makes it easier for you to ask kindly and it is easier for the other person to be able to help you.

Be clear about what help you need. Communicate specific tasks or areas where assistance would be beneficial.

Once you know what kind of help you need, consider whom to ask. Keep in mind you may need to speak to a few different people before you get the help you need.

Be thoughtful in how you ask. Avoid making your request sound like a demand. Be considerate of the other person’s time and commitments. Make it easy for them to be honest about their availability and capability.

Be clear and direct. Your ask should be clear and direct and include the words “Can you help me?”. Don’t expect others to take your hints or notice your needs without direct communication.

Show your gratitude and appreciation. Let the person know how much their help means to you. A simple thank you can go a long way in building positive relationships and encouraging future assistance.