People are social beings, wired to seek connection, especially during stressful or emotional moments. Co-regulation is all about leaning on each other to stay calm and balanced when things get tough.

Some people may feel like they need to handle everything themselves, but the truth is, we all need help sometimes. Sometimes, we just need someone to help us get back on track. Whether it’s a kind word, a calming presence, or just someone listening, having another person there can help us manage stress and emotions.

In marriage, both spouses should feel comfortable asking for and offering support to help each other stay emotionally balanced. This mutual support not only strengthens your connection but also makes both partners feel more emotionally secure.

Be Honest: Let your partner know when you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed. Don’t wait for them to notice—express it directly. For example, “I’m feeling really stressed right now, and I could use some support.”

Be Specific: Tell them what would help in the moment. Whether it’s a hug, a quiet presence, deep breathing together, or just someone to listen.

By embracing co-regulation, you create a stronger, more supportive relationship where both partners can thrive emotionally, together.