Sympathetic Joy: the pleasure that comes from delighting in other people’s well-being (specifically in their successes).

Celebrating triumphs in life –  from small, seemingly trivial ones to those that are more significant – strengthens the bond between two people. Being genuinely enthusiastic in responding to your spouse’s success or good fortune can have a positive impact on them. And the relationship. 

Be excited for your spouse, highlight your joy for them and your pride in them. Praise their efforts and talents that got them there. Ask to hear more about the good news. Help them relive the experience by being present and listening as they recount it all.

Your joy in their success magnifies their joy. Your words and attention boosts their self esteem.

“That’s great! I am so proud of you. You’ve worked so hard and you deserve this. Let’s bust out a bottle of champagne to celebrate, and you can tell me all about it!”