🎯Genuine concern is rooted in love and care, aimed at supporting and uplifting others.
🎯Concern-shaming disguises criticism as genuine concern, fueled by a desire to feel superior and put others down.
Concern-shaming is like turning compassion into a weapon, making people feel guilty or inadequate for their choices. Unsolicited advice and judgment, especially from someone who doesn’t truly grasp the circumstances, can be overwhelming and counterproductive.
To express genuine concern and support others effectively:
- Practice empathy and understanding: Put yourself in their shoes, striving to comprehend their perspective and challenges. Avoid being judgmental or dismissive of their feelings and experiences.
- Seek permission to share your perspective: Before providing unsolicited input, ask if they are open to hearing your thoughts.
- Offer support, not judgment: Instead of focusing on their mistakes, extend a helping hand and inquire how you can be of assistance.
- Use “I” statements: When expressing concerns, use “I” statements to convey your feelings without sounding accusatory. “I’m worried about your well-being” rather than “You’re making terrible choices.”
- Respect boundaries: Understand that not everyone may want or need your input. Respect their autonomy and decision to handle matters on their own.