You are each unique and wonderful in your own ways. Don’t make it into a competition.

You may prioritize being healthy, and your spouse doesn’t care as much. You may want to be involved in community work and your spouse would rather spend more time with the family. You may have certain ways of doing things and they may do it differently.

You can be proud of all the wonderful things you do. But don’t start noticing when your spouse doesn’t do all the wonderful things you do. And definitely don’t nag about them. Accept your differences.