Forgiveness can’t always make the situation better – especially if the offense continues. Yes, you can release the previous pain and hurt. But then it happens again.

If you have done some true self-introspection to determine that you are not being supersensitive, or the act is obviously egregious, then it is worthwhile to set up some boundaries for self-preservation.

Setting boundaries is a method of informing those around you how to treat you, how to care for you, how to interact with you in a way that is nurturing, fulfilling and makes you feel safe. Boundaries help set up the relationship in a way that your values are acknowledged, honored and respected.
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We are intentionally not outlining how to set boundaries here, as every situation is very individual. It is worthwhile to work with a wise friend, counselor or rabbi/Rebbetzin to help you with this inner work and support you on the journey.