When you and your spouse have different preferences on something, you could dig in your heals and insist on it going your way. But is that best for your marriage? *Sometimes, it makes more sense to yield to the preference of your spouse.*
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Think about:
– to whom does this matters more?
– who will be responsible to follow up?
– who has a track record of making good decisions in this area?
That is the one whose preferences should be followed.
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*If it really doesn’t matter that much to you, then let it go.* And don’t hold it against your spouse. In other words, choose your battles.
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*If it really does matter to you, you can explain your thought process and why you really want to do it in this way.*
-“I’d like to explain my thoughts about this…”
-“From the way I see it, the implications of this are …”
-“These are my concerns….”
-“This is my end goal. How we get there is less important. For now, I see this way as the the only option. But maybe there is another way to accomplish the same thing.”