Bumping into difference of perspectives in your marriage? You might be making mental judgments and jumping to inaccurate assumptions. Rather than seeing your spouse’s differing views as potential for conflict, consider it an opportunity to learn more about them.

Ask yourself:
– “Do I really understand what they mean?”
– “What are they seeing that I am not?”
– “What have they experienced in their past that has led them to this belief?”
– “How can I use this as an opportunity to know them better?”

And have a heart to heart conversation about it. With genuine curiosity and respect. Be willing to be influenced by their way.

In this way, your spouse will feel more understood and therefore feel safer and more secure since you are not challenging their beliefs or thoughts. And you may expand your way of seeing the issue.