When people see areas where their lives intersects with someone else, they feel more connected. This is like saying “I’m like you.” It makes people feel understood and gives them a sense of belonging.

In marriage, we will bring up and focus on areas where we have differences more often rather than our similarities. Make a point to intentionally do or speak about something that highlights your similarities.

• Go to a restaurant that you both love.
• Focus on a shared hobby.
• Read up on a topic that you both enjoy and have a good convo around that.
• Dream together about upcoming vacation. Even if it is just a dream.