Expecting others to read our minds or catch our subtle hints just leads to disappointment, misunderstandings, and resentment. It’s unfair to expect others to figure out what we want without us saying it straight. When we don’t speak up about our needs and desires, we are setting the stage for disappointment all around. Either we’re leaving them guessing about what exactly we want, or they simply don’t know about it at all.

If we don’t communicate our wants openly, how can we expect others to fulfill them, or in the way that we want them to? Holding onto the belief that they should just ‘know’ what we want is not only naive but also unfair. 😠 “Didn’t they see that I was hot and I could really use a drink now?”😠 “Don’t they know that I want a new [whatever] for my half-birthday?”😠 “He didn’t get my hint that I do want flowers this week (even though for years I’ve been saying that I don’t like flowers!)”

It’s crucial that we speak up and share what we want or need. 💬 “I would so appreciate a refreshing drink. Can you please get me one? Thanks.” 💬 “My birthday is coming, I put together a short list of things I have my eye on. If you are considering getting me a gift, I’d love it if you choose from that list.” 💬“I know that I’ve said in the past that I don’t like flowers. This week, I’m feeling like a bouquet of white peonies from [store] would really enhance our table.”

Communication is key in any relationship. By expressing our needs and desires clearly and directly, we not only increase the chances of getting what we want but also foster a deeper understanding between ourselves and others.