Being on the receiving end of a compliment can feel downright uncomfortable for many. So, we might reject it, dismiss it, deny it, downplay it, change the subject altogether, or simply shut it down. But that discounts the giver of the compliment.

Saying “thank you” to a compliment doesn’t just acknowledge their kindness, thoughtfulness, effort, or intent, it acknowledges the person themselves. When someone gives you a compliment, you should say “thank you”. Even if what you did was small. Even if you feel that you don’t really deserve that compliment. Even if you think it wasn’t a big deal. (And don’t forget to thank for a compliment that was delivered by text or email.)

It doesn’t take long to say “thank you,” but it does take caring.

What you might say:
• “Thank you, it makes my day to hear that.”
• “I really put a lot of thought into this, thank you for noticing.”
• “Thank you. It was quite difficult to pull off, I’m glad you noticed.”
• “Thanks, it’s so satisfying to know that my work is making a difference.”
• “Thank you, I really appreciate you taking the time to express that.”
• “Thank you, I am happy to hear you feel that way!”

What not to say: “Thank you, but …” “Oh, it’s nothing.” “You think? I don’t know about that…” “Thanks, yours is even better!” This discounts their compliment and their acknowledgment of you.