Both of you had a long day. Your spouse calls and asks for some quiet time when they come home.
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Here are 2 ways to look at it:
“What? I also had a hard day. They weren’t around in the morning or last night. Or the morning before that or the night before that. When do I get to rest? Why can’t I get a rest when they finally come home?”
Or,
“Wow, they are working extra hard these last few days on this new project. They woke up early, went to sleep late for days already. No wonder they are exhausted. I’ll figure it out for another few days until this is over. I’ll prepare a warm drink for them.”
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Your response will come from the way you look at it.