Life is complex. Relationships are complex. Both of you can be right – from each of your perspectives.

We don’t have to diminish the other person’s views and feelings in order to be right. We don’t have to give up anything to hear the other person’s point of view. We each have different information or different interpretations and so both versions of the situation can make sense at the same time.

📌 The aim is to move from “Who is right here?” or “How can they think that?” to curiosity: “I wonder what information they have that I don’t.” “How might they be seeing the world such that their view makes sense?”

Both people’s stories matter. Understanding someone else’s story doesn’t mean that we have to give up our own. This is an ‘AND’ situation – My Story and Your Story.

Share your story and ask about theirs. Once you both have a better understanding of what is going on for the other, you can have a better conversation to move forward with more empathy and understanding.