Make gratitude a routine, independent of how you feel. Thank your spouse for something – big or very small – everyday. As routine as having your morning coffee.

Finding a few minutes of uninterrupted time to think and thank is important. The time of day you practice isn’t particularly important, but a regular time will help you to develop this practice as a habit.

Ideally, you’d express your gratitude in person. But if life is so busy, at least text it or leave a voice note. Every day.

– “Thank you for being you.”
– “Thank you for taking care of the kids during the night.”
– “Thank you for that joke. Cracked me up just when I needed comic relief.”
– “Thank you for remembering to buy that [whatever].”
– “Thank you for choosing this soothing color that we painted on the walls.”
– “Thank you for taking [a responsibility] off my list.”

It may feel awkward or contrived in the beginning, but keep at it. The many benefits of gratitude to yourself and your spouse are worth it.
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(And while you are thanking, thank others too. Add that to your routine. Send a text to someone – while you are sipping your coffee.)