Sometimes the issue evokes emotions because something that is important to you did not happen, or something that you don’t want to happen did happen. You have a strong need to be included and you were excluded. You have a desire to be recognized for your hard work and you were not acknowledged.

Name the underlying need or desire to yourself. It can help you frame the situation.

Some of the more common emotional triggers, meaning you react when you feel as though you aren’t getting or will not get one of these needs met.
acceptance – respect – be liked – be understood – be needed – be valued – be in control – be right – be treated fairly – attention – comfort – freedom – peacefulness – balance – consistency – order – predictability – love – safety – feel included – autonomy – fun – new challenges – independence