Negativity has a sneaky way of creeping into our relationships, often unnoticed at first. It starts with small complaints or irritations but can grow into a habit of only seeing what’s missing or what’s wrong with our partner or the relationship. This constant focus on the negative creates a rift, making it hard to appreciate the good moments and the qualities.

When we have an ideal vision of what the person or the relationship should be, we often take off ‘points’ for everything that is not there. But what if we started from zero and added points for everything that is there? Note: This isn’t about rating someone; it’s about the perspective of noticing what’s present rather than what’s lacking.

Instead of dwelling on all that you wish was, make a conscious effort to see the good. And celebrate those – compliment your partner, express gratitude for the little things.

No relationship is perfect. But by choosing to focus on the strengths and the love you share, you can build a more fulfilling and resilient bond.