What we feel from others may reflect how we treat ourselves or what we believe about ourselves.

To a large degree, we teach others how to treat us by how we treat ourselves.

If we feel that our spouse ignores our needs, it might be that we are neglecting our own needs.
If we feel that our spouse is disrespecting us, it is worth asking ourselves how much we really respect ourselves.
If we feel that our spouse is too critical, it might just be that we are critical of ourselves too.
**This may not be the case at all, but worth reflecting honestly – with a loving and objective friend – if there is any kernel of this going on.

Very often, people mirror or reflect to us the nature of our relationship with ourselves. If we recognize that we aren’t treating, loving or respecting ourselves well, we can change that. That will change how others treat you.