Paying attention to changes in your spouse’s behavior and demeanor can reveal unspoken emotions and needs. Is she getting quieter? More anxious? Asking for extra support more often? Withdrawing? Becoming quicker to frustration? There could be many reasons for these changes—whether or not they’re directly related to you. Still, if you’re noticing these shifts in your relationship, it’s worth considering what role you might be playing. It may not all be a “her” problem.

She may be growing quieter or less responsive because she’s slowly giving up, feeling that her needs aren’t being met, or sensing that you’re not willing or able to be there for her. Or perhaps her flare-ups reflect the overwhelm of carrying too much of the load on her own.

Consider what small shifts you could make in your actions or communication to make a real difference. These adjustments could foster a more positive, connected response, showing her that you’re fully tuned in, committed to understanding her needs, and willing to do what you can to lighten her load and help her feel cherished. In doing so, you’ll be strengthening the foundation for a healthier, stronger connection.