Reality is whatever is in front of you, whatever is really happening. The truth. Whether you like it or not.

Let’s say it is raining right now. That is the truth, that is the reality. Thinking that “It shouldn’t be raining” is just a thought. Thinking that your spouse “should be home more with the kids” is just a thought.

Those thoughts lead to unmet expectations. In other words, disappointments.
These are thoughts that we layer on top of the reality. And they impede our ability to think clearly for the situation.
Without the “should” and “shouldn’t,” we can see reality as it is. This frees us to think clearly and sanely to act more l efficiently and productively..