Speak positively about your marriage. Often. Very often. To each other, to others, in public (appropriately).

What we praise grows. Praise the time you’ve been together so far. Praise the life and home you have built together. Praise the tough times you’ve overcome together. The easy times. The happy times.  Praise how your differences work so well and excitingly together. Praise your spouse’s efforts, progress and successes. Their talents and contributions to your life and to your family.

When we focus on the positive, it eventually brings our attitude about that into alignment. If you start speaking well of your spouse and your marriage, you start believing what you say.