Acknowledge the person that they are.

An expression of acknowledgment goes beyond the person’s action. It recognizes the person and their qualities and inner character that enabled them to do what they did. It’s a statement of “I see who you are!”It’s not about what someone has done, but rather who they were when they did that. Acknowledgment is not a thank you. There’s a big difference: “Thank for taking care of that task.” vs. “Your dedication to our family is so inspiring!” An acknowledgment says that we see who they are, and we have benefited from them, not only from their actions.

Some qualities to look for are: concern, patience, dedication, commitment, perseverance, caring, thoughtfulness, creativity, initiative, enthusiasm, clear communication, or wisdom.

“Your creativity really added a special final touch to this project.”

“The personal attention you gave to this project inspired others to also participate more fully.”Acknowledge the process: working through the ups and downs, persevering despite the obstacles.

“It’s tough now, but your perseverance and determination are what is pulling everyone through this.”

Some examples of acknowledgment statements:

Notice that these statements are not expressions of gratitude; rather they address a wonderful part of the person’s character.

“Did I ever tell you that your creativity inspires me?”

“I feel so calm when I am around you.”

“Knowing I can count on you makes all the difference in the world.”

“There’s no doubt to me that you want us to be successful in this new community.”

“Your support made it possible for me to take on this new project.”