When we take our spouse into account, we are being mindful of their needs and desires. When we make an effort to understand our partner’s perspectives and work to meet their needs, we create a relationship where they feel valued, heard, and appreciated.

 On the other hand, when we don’t take our spouse into account, it can lead to feelings of neglect and resentment. They may feel like their needs are not being heard or met, which can lead to conflicts and misunderstandings. In these situations, they may feel the need to assert themselves in order to get our attention and have their needs met.

When we take our spouse in account, they in turn may be less likely to feel the need to assert themselves or demand attention.

This concept is not about ignoring our own needs or sacrificing our own desires for the sake of our partner. Rather, it’s about finding a balance between meeting our own needs and considering our partner’s needs as well. When both partners are taking each other into account, it creates a relationship dynamic where both parties feel heard, valued, and respected, which can lead to a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.