When one spouse makes decisions without consulting the other, it not only fosters a sense of inequality but can also leave the other feeling disregarded, ultimately leading to resentment and conflict. And often, it really isn’t the best decision for the couple or family.

This unilateral decision-making is a fundamental breakdown of communication and erodes the very foundation of partnership and trust upon which a healthy marriage thrives. Whether it’s significant decisions like financial matters or smaller ones such as planning a night with friends, if the decision impacts both partners or the family as a whole, it requires joint involvement.

People often tend towards unilateral decision-making for several reasons.

• They might find it quicker and more convenient, avoiding what they perceive as the hassle of seeking input from their partner. Some fear that consulting their partner might imply a need for permission, challenging their sense of independence. Others may subconsciously have doubts about the validity of their choices and wish to dodge potential criticism or disagreement from their partner. Additionally, some believe they possess superior judgment than their spouse, or are driven by a compelling need for control, while others simply seek to avoid conflict.

Regardless of the motivation, unilateral decision-making can undermine trust and lead to feelings of exclusion within the relationship. Decisions should be approached with open communication, mutual respect, and collaboration. Both partners should feel valued and included in the decision-making process, ensuring that their voices are heard and their perspectives considered.

By embracing joint decision-making, couples can reinforce trust, deepen understanding, and foster a harmonious relationship built on shared goals and mutual respect.