We live the lives we’re willing to tolerate. (NOTE: this is not at all saying that we are responsible for everything that happens to us, such as abuse.) If we are willing to tolerate negative or unsatisfying circumstances, we may find ourselves living a life that is less fulfilling or enjoyable.

 So many of us are not living our fullest lives. We stay in our comfort zone, afraid of the unknown; afraid of pushing our limits; afraid to challenge status quo, our own beliefs, or the beliefs of those in our life.

By tolerating our own limitations and not challenging ourselves, we limit the potential for growth and progress. On the other hand, when we are willing to take risks and challenge ourselves, we can achieve more and become better versions of ourselves.

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 When we think, “I wish so-and-so would stop doing that!”, maybe it is time that we turn the lens onto ourselves: Why have we been tolerating it? What steps can we take to stop tolerating it?

This could involve setting boundaries, communicating our needs and expectations more clearly, or taking other actions to assert ourselves and address the issue. By looking at the situation from this perspective, we can take more control over our own lives and reduce the negative impact of someone else’s actions on our own well-being.