Sometimes, life throws us off course—whether it’s stress, exhaustion, or something else—and we might not be our usual selves. When this happens, it’s important to communicate with your spouse so they don’t feel confused or left wondering.

Start by acknowledging the situation. If you notice yourself acting differently, like being quiet or distant, it’s helpful to say something like, “You might have noticed that I seem a little off today/lately. I think it’s best if I explain what’s going on—it’ll make things clearer for both of us.”

You can also guide them by sharing what might help you feel more at ease or what might not be helpful. For example, “I might need some space right now, but if you could just check in with a quick text later, that would be great.” This helps your spouse know how to support you without guessing.

By keeping them in the loop, you create a sense of understanding and partnership. It turns a potentially confusing moment into an opportunity for connection and support.