Make sure that you are fully understood by the other person.

As the one sharing your story or any message, you want to make sure that the receiver of the message understood it as you had intended. If the other person doesn’t share how they understood it, you ask.

Take the onus of the clarity of the message onto yourself; if the other didn’t understand your message, it is quite possibly due to the way you expressed it. So ask, “I am not sure I said that clearly. Please tell me what you understood from what I said.” This is is much better than saying, “Do you get it?” which can connote that you believe that you are explaining it well and any lack of understanding is on their side.