It can be tough to hear your spouse bring up things they wish you’d do differently. If you avoid these conversations or get defensive, you miss out on chances to grow as a person and as a couple. This can really strain your relationship.

Instead, try to be open to what your spouse is saying. Usually, their feedback is meant to help—whether it’s about improving something for you, the relationship, or the family. Even if it’s hard to hear, listen with the goal of understanding. Avoid getting defensive or dismissive. Remember, their input can be a chance to make things better and strengthen your connection.

By staying open and engaged, you show that you value their perspective and care about growing together.