Keeping your sense of self.

A healthy relationship is not supposed to erase you.

You are still allowed to:
have preferences.
have boundaries.
have opinions.
need space.
want different things sometimes.

Real connection is not built by disappearing into the relationship or abandoning yourself in the process. 

Not constantly shrinking yourself to avoid tension.
Not over-giving just to keep the relationship stable.
Not losing your voice to stay loved.

Because your marriage — and your life — need the full version of you.