As unique individuals coming from different backgrounds, there will be instances where you and your spouse view things from different perspectives. You may not fully appreciate why something is so important or meaningful to them.

It’s best to ask for more information, “Please help me better understand what about this is so important to you.”

When your spouse shares their underlying feelings and reasons behind their wants and needs, you get to know them better. You can also share your thoughts and feelings behind your own perspective. You can then come up with more creative solutions. Or, you may realize how important it is to your spouse and you will try to accommodate them.