Questions that stimulate informative answers almost all begin with the open-ended WHAT or HOW.
Questions that begin with “Are you” or Do you” invite yes and no answers, and then shut down the conversation.

Yes/ No: “Do you want to ….”
Answer: “No”
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Open-ended: “How would you feel about …”
Answer: “I’d rather try ….”
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Yes/ No: “Are you interested in …?”
Open-ended: “What would you like to do about ….?”
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When sensitive issues come up, you can:
1. Say what is on your mind, starting with “I”
2. Ask for your spouse’s thoughts with how/ what questions.
Even better, do both!