When we find ourselves in a situation where we’re not vibing with what someone is saying or doing, instead of jumping to conclusions or getting all defensive, approach it with curiosity. Genuine curiosity. Not trying to find the flaw in their viewpoint or how you can convince them to your way. Just trying to understand. 

Start off with “Help me understand better” or “I’m curious about this” or “I’d love to know more about this.” (of course, tone matters) By saying this, we show that we’re genuinely interested in getting to the bottom of things and learning more about where the other person is coming from.  You might ask more questions to really understand.

This opens the door for a more constructive conversation and allows us to dig deeper, maybe uncovering some unexpected insights or reasons behind their actions or perspectives.

Being curious in these moments helps us build bridges, find common ground, and maybe even change our own perspective along the way.