Be OK with disagreements.

Disagreements are essentially differences of opinions, perspectives or values. And they are inevitable; we all see things differently from others from time to time. When we encounter such differences, we can use them to get to know each other better. Good, healthy disagreement leads to eye-opening discussions, growth, and potentially more closeness.

Our opinions, perspectives, views are based on our values, standards, ethics, commitments, dreams, passions, etc. When someone shares their perspectives or opinions – whether we agree with them or not – they are showing something about themselves – what is important to them, what they value, what they believe to be true.

In a healthy disagreement, people learn, explore, and challenge each other’s thinking. And widen their own horizons. With curiosity, open-mindedness, and respect.

When in disagreement, it isn’t about having the other person see things in our way, or bringing them over to our way. When someone is expressing their opinion, instead of asking ourselves the question, “Do I agree or disagree?”, we should ask ourselves 💭“What are they revealing about themselves right now?” or 💭“What can I get to know about what is important to them?”

We can ask, 💬“Help me understand your perspective.” 💬“Help me understand how you came to this thought.”

By working through conflict together, we’ll feel closer to the other people and gain a better understanding of what matters to them and how they prefer to work.