So you’ve noticed together that you have a harmful pattern such as interrupting each other during conversations.

You’ve spoken about it and want to work on it. Agree on a way to gently remind each other when you slip back into it. For example, you might use a specific phrase or signal like, “Let’s remember our agreement” or “Time to pause and reset.” Or simply say, “We’re interrupting each other again.”

This approach fosters awareness and encourages both of you to address the issue constructively, rather than letting it undermine your relationship. By having a shared strategy for gentle reminders, such as a code word like “pause” or a signal like raising your hand, you create a supportive environment where both partners feel respected and involved in the process of positive change.

This helps to keep the focus on growth and improvement, rather than placing blame, which strengthens your partnership and builds resilience together.