Vulnerability is consciously choosing to NOT hide our emotions, desires and opinions from others. It’s about not being overly concerned with protecting our ego and worrying about what others might think of us. It’s about letting our guard down and sharing the more tricky parts of ourselves. It’s about letting others see the real and imperfect person that we are. That takes courage and strength. It certainly is not weak.

The key to true vulnerability is that being willing to accept the consequences no matter what.

Vulnerability says things like: 💬“I made a mistake.” 💬“I need help.”💬 “I don’t know.”💬 “I’m fortunate to have you in my life.” 💬 “I am setting up boundaries here.” It’s complimenting, expressing unpopular opinions, showing gratitude for help, asking to join a group…

Vulnerability is crucial for relationships because it builds trust and honesty with others, fosters empathy, and builds stronger bonds.

• With vulnerability, we bring our real selves into the relationship – without the stress of wearing our perfection masks all the time. We are calmer and more authentic. This also creates the atmosphere for others to be their authentic selves.
• When we share our struggles, we can get the empathy and support we need. If we never give anyone any inkling of what is going on for us, people can’t show us grace and compassion. When we open up, others feel more comfortable to share that they have similar feelings and struggles. This helps us all normalize that everyone has something.
• Vulnerability helps us own our weaknesses, challenges and our ‘stuff’. We are able to take feedback, see our role and create strategies to make improvements instead of denying, justifying or blaming.
• Vulnerability permits us to unburden ourselves of the heavy weight of keeping our feelings locked inside. That release can help us destress and feel more alive which really does help us be more successful people in all areas.
• People (especially spouses) really do want to help others. By sharing and asking for help, we give them the opportunity to be part of our lives. This also boosts their sense of self.