Too often, we expect that others will treat us in a certain way, and then set ourselves up for disappointment when our expectations aren’t met. We assume that most people think and behave similarly to us. So, if we are the kind of person who gives little random gifts, we expect the same to be done to us. This is assumed similarity bias.

But in reality, we are not the same. What’s important to you may not be important to others. It’s not fair to assume our values onto other people. We can’t expect them to think and act the way we deem as correct, because it’s what we would do.

Instead, step back. Let them be who they are – with their different values, beliefs and relational styles. Be open to receiving what they are offering. Lower your expectations to lower your disappointments.