How do you act with Tiferes in your marriage?

1. Balance? Do you generally act with Tiferes – giving beautifully, the perfect balance of Chesed and Gevurah? Are there certain circumstances in which you do express yourself with Tiferes, empathy, and others you do not; why is that?

2. Giving? How compassionate is your giving, even when you feel that your giving is not ‘deserved’? How might your spouse describe your giving? Why is that? What can you do differently?

3. Appropriateness? Do you generally act with the right balance for the situation? What are some examples of that?

4. Feedback? How do you express negative feedback such as disappointment? How do you react to negative feedback from your spouse? Are those conversations respectful so that each feels heard and even empowered? Would your spouse agree; how do you know?

5. Empathy? Do you look at situations with empathy, withholding your judgment and attentively tuning in to what is happening for the other person? Do you listen to their perspectives and how they perceive the situation? Do you ask for their perspective and point of view?

What will you do to enhance empathy and compassion in your marriage and family life?