Ask your spouse:

“What types of boundaries or limits help you feel protected?” “How might I express a ‘no’ so that it feels acceptable?”

“What are some boundaries that we ought to incorporate for our family?”

Be brave, ask for insight and feedback:

“What was a time when I expressed something with too much Gevurah? What could I do differently in the future?”

“What is an area where you think I could demonstrate more restraint?”