No one is happy when they are judged more than admired.

It’s inevitable; your spouse will do something that annoys you sometimes. When you begin to feel irritated at your spouse, instead of reviewing everything you don’t like, turn your thoughts to all the good things about him or her. “Yeah, this thing is annoying. But s/he is so good at this, that, the other and the other.” Even better, say it aloud. “Yeah, I feel irritated when I see the dishes piling in the sink. But I still love you for being [the best ….].“ Hey you never know, your spouse will feel good about you and the relationship and those dishes just might get washed.