Ask your spouse:

“What types of giving make you feel loved?”

“What words are meaningful? What expressions of love really resonate with you (‘love language’)? What types of gifts do you appreciate?”

“What are some things that I gave you – tiny and bigger – that you would like more of? “

Be brave, ask for insight and feedback:

“What was a time that I gave a gift or did something that didn’t resonate with you, that you didn’t appreciate? What could I do differently in the future?”