When dating for marriage, there are some important topics that must be discussed. These may be difficult for some people, and they may have a harder time sharing, asking, being vulnerable. It is important not to avoid the topics because of that uncomfortability. You gotta be patient. And make it comfortable to open up. Your body […]
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During shiduchim, you are seeking a match for you. If you don’t really know who you are, you may end up with a fine person – but not the best match for you. Before you bring someone into your life, it is important to figure out what your life is all about. What are your values? What
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Make a (short) list of personality traits that really bug you. Yeah, one day you’ll work on yourself so they don’t bug you all that much. But for now, you really don’t like being around people who do that often. Some examples might be: tries to seem more important than he really is; works too
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There are only a certain number of brain cells you can use during a date. Being self-conscious limits your ability to express yourself fully. It also limits your ability to be fully aware. If you are using too many brain cells trying to impress or being self conscious, you really can’t get to know the other person.
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How to keep the other person’s dignity and your own when ending a shiduch.
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OK, we all are human. And some of us have strong desires for some things that others might call superficial – like beauty and appearance. It may not be the best part of who you are, but it is indeed a part of who you are. And if that is who you are and those are your
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We love the person who helps us feel good about ourselves. It is crucial to marry someone who makes you feel comfortable about being you. Someone who appreciates you so much that you begin appreciating yourself more. In an authentic way. Not just flattery. Someone who notices the ‘you’ in you. And you want to marry someone
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Leah is fun to be with, great sense of humor, and knows how to laugh through the challenges that come her way. She’s confident and super friendly and has lots of friends. But what is she really like? Is she reliable and responsible? Does she have integrity? Is she kind? What does she feel is
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Sometimes it happens. You’re dating someone and you’re just not sure. Sometimes, ‘taking a break’ from meeting each other is the best thing to do. The Rebbe has suggested it on a number of occasions. Sometimes, people just need some space to work things out in their head. Every time you have a conversation with
The date went well. You shared about yourself. You learned a little more about him. But you’re still not sure about a couple of things. You don’t know him all that well to commit to marriage. That’s OK. So you come home. And then what? Here’s what not to do. Don’t analyze and antagonize over
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