This is one of those things that gets forgotten from time to time. There are lots of these little tasks that fall through cracks. Often this happens because the task is not assigned to one specific person. If someone happens to remember than it gets done. And if not, the conversation goes something like this: […]
Month: October 2020
Stage 4: Committing to Marriage
Make decisions with your head. Your heart and emotions can have a say, but in the end, use your head. Not anyone else’s head or heart. Before committing to marriage, make sure that you know enough about each other to make the decision. Did you share everything that should be shared; do not hold back […]
Stage 3: Developing Emotional Intimacy
Next Dates How many? Depends on how things are moving along. Purpose of the meetings/ dates Build the relationship so that you feel safe to disclose whatever it is that you’d like to disclose want only the best for each other want to spend time together At some point, you will have to bring up […]
Stage 2: Developing a Relationship
How many dates? How many? Depends on how things are moving along. Purpose of the meetings/ dates This is the time to communicate your values and goals and to learn more about the other’s values and goals. Of course, throughout the conversations, there will be some lighter topics as well. Intentionally getting to know more […]
Stage 1: Finding Out about Each Other
Research Can be done by your parents of your advocate. As applicable, you can do your own research too. At this point, you and your parents/ advocate should be on the same page about what you want and need in a spouse. *Check in every so often to make sure that they (still) are on […]
Words to Avoid: “You’ll never understand”
There can be several different contexts to these words, but none are positive. These words connote that speaker believes the other person is not capable of understanding the complexities. Or that the speaker doesn’t want to put in the effort to help the other person to understand. Even worse, the speaker may be dismissing the […]
A great life is made of great moments
A GREAT LIFE IS MADE OF GREAT MOMENTS It’s moments, not things, that make for a great life. A great life is made of lots of wonderful smaller moments. Some are magical surprises. But most are in your hands. It’s what you choose to do, how you choose to see the world around you, how […]
Medical Conditions: To Share or Not?
The question is not if a medical condition should be shared but rather when and how to tell.
Budgeting Basics & Shalom Bayis with Rabbi Eliyahu Prero
Devora Krasnianski of Adai Ad talks with Rabbi Eliyahu Prero, a financial coach at Mesila* about how to develop an effective budget as a team. Rabbi Prero will share some Dos and Don’ts of discussing your budget.
What to Do on a Date
Dating ideas to help you get to know each other from different angles.