Month: June 2025

Navigating the Roadmap of Marriage: Exploring Differentiation

Devora Krasnianski of Adai Ad (www.adaiad.org) speaks with Chana Levitan, MSc, about her newly released book, “Are We There Yet?”. It’s practical and insightful about this “one thing” for successful marriage. After so many years of therapy and coaching, Chana concluded that the one thing for successful marriage is… differentiation.

Chana breaks it all down in this conversation, the stages of a marriage, the roadblocks so many of us hit as we discover and live by the concept of differentiation. Differentiation is the ability to maintain my sense of self as I discover how different my spouse and I are – while at the same time learning to stay connected.

Words to Avoid:  “What are you talking about, that never happened.”

The phrase dismisses the other person’s experience, potentially invalidating their feelings and perceptions of what happened. In fact, this can be gaslighting, a manipulation tactic used to make someone doubt their own memories or perception of reality. If indeed you have a different perception of the event, you can be curious about why the other […]

Marriage Skills for Successful Marriage

Devora Krasnianski speaks with Lisa Twerski, LCSW, about her newly released book, Me & You – What I Wish I Knew: A Marriage Manual for the Frum Community.
This interview offers an insightful and practical conversation about building and deepening the marriage relationship, with guidance relevant to couples at any stage.

The Gift of Feedback

At the heart of every lasting relationship is the ability to grow — individually and together. And growth doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It often happens through feedback — offered with love, received with openness. Real growth is sparked by reflection, courage, and connection. It happens when we are willing to hold up a mirror […]

How to Live (and Love) with Your Differences

Every marriage brings together two unique individuals—which means there will be differences. No matter how similar you are, there will always be gaps in personality, preferences, values, and approaches. That’s not a flaw in your relationship; it’s a feature of it. The goal isn’t to erase the differences, but to understand and work with them. […]

Supporting Each Other

Asking for help doesn’t make you weak — it makes you human. And more than that, it creates space for connection, partnership, and mutual trust. You don’t have to carry everything on your own. Letting your spouse in—whether it’s for practical help or emotional support—can deepen the relationship and remind both of you that you’re […]

Appreciation Shared, Connection Strengthened

Appreciation is one of the quiet superpowers of a strong relationship. A kind word, a thoughtful thank you, a moment of genuine praise—it doesn’t take much, but it can mean everything. It helps us feel seen. Valued. Connected. Encouraged. The more we notice and express the good in each other, the more we reinforce the […]

Better Words #2

Words matter. The way we say things can either open doors or build walls in our relationships. This edition shares practical tips on words to use—and avoid—that reduce tension, invite understanding, and help conversations flow more smoothly. It offers fresh alternatives and reminders to keep connection alive. Be sure to revisit Better Words #1 for […]