Of course, everything happens for a reason. Broken engagements and divorces, R”L, are all part of Hashem’s plan. Let’s try to understand how some mismatched people commit to marriage. That awareness can be helpful in avoiding that for yourself. Here we share several common enough relationship traps. Not to scare you… just something to think about. […]
Month: August 2014
Make it comfortable for the other to open up
When dating for marriage, there are some important topics that must be discussed. These may be difficult for some people, and they may have a harder time sharing, asking, being vulnerable. It is important not to avoid the topics because of that uncomfortability. You gotta be patient. And make it comfortable to open up. Your body […]
The right person to marry will depend almost totally on who you are
During shiduchim, you are seeking a match for you. If you don’t really know who you are, you may end up with a fine person – but not the best match for you. Before you bring someone into your life, it is important to figure out what your life is all about. What are your values? What […]
List of ‘can’t stand’s
Make a (short) list of personality traits that really bug you. Yeah, one day you’ll work on yourself so they don’t bug you all that much. But for now, you really don’t like being around people who do that often. Some examples might be: tries to seem more important than he really is; works too […]
On a date, be other-conscious, not self- conscious
There are only a certain number of brain cells you can use during a date. Being self-conscious limits your ability to express yourself fully. It also limits your ability to be fully aware. If you are using too many brain cells trying to impress or being self conscious, you really can’t get to know the other person. […]
How to end a shiduch, with dignity and respect
How to keep the other person’s dignity and your own when ending a shiduch.