So much of how we think about things is our own interpretation or explanation of what happened. We are trying to make sense of what happened. Our approach to making these attributions in our marriage influences how we feel about that the relationship, and ultimately impacts our words and interactions. Whatever happened is a fact. […]
Month: March 2022
Preparing for your role as a wife
Devora Krasnianski of Adai Ad talks with Reb. Malki Spira, LMHC and Ruchama Clapman of MASK about how to prepare for your successful marriage – in the time before marriage.
Words to Use: “I understand you.”
Most people want to be understood and validated. It helps us feel loved. Once we feel understood, we are open, happier, and more willing to listen to the ideas and perspectives of others. Validating another person might sound like, “I understand you felt that way, it makes sense to me”, or “That must have been […]
Give your thoughts a name, and then dismiss them.
Give your thoughts a name. So often, unhelpful thoughts (or stories) flit through our minds. Usually, the same ones over and over again. These thoughts can easily pull us into worrying, ruminating or ‘analysis paralysis’. While it may be natural to have these thoughts, they can be debilitating. Don’t take your thoughts too seriously. Name […]
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [3/27/2022]
3 Conversations you might have this week What is a fact that was hard for you to accept? What makes a day great? What is the best gift you’ve ever given or received? 2 Quotes to inspire you 1.“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” – Les […]
How to stay connected with your husband over Pesach
We talk about effective mindsets for staying connected with your husband through the busyness, joys and stress of Pesach.
5 secrets for effective communication in your marriage
Sara Gita Soble shares 5 secrets of effective communication for marriage.
Want to overcome a bad habit? Think of the payoffs and tradeoffs.
Sometimes when we have a big challenge that needs us to do some hard work to resolve, we tend to stay stuck by ruminating, worrying, fantasizing, plotting revenge, or some other type of unworkable behavior that doesn’t resolve the issue at all. So why do we do this? We do things for the payoff, something […]
Think of a conflict from the perspective of a neutral third party.
Think of a conflict from the perspective of a neutral third party who wants the best for all involved. How might this person think about the disagreement? How might they find the good that could be in the situation? This is not always so easy to do in the moment of disagreement. It is worthwhile […]
How Trauma Impacts Marriage
Devora Krasnianski of Adai Ad talks with Yehuda (Hudi) Kowalsky, LMHC and Ruchama Clapman of MASK about how past trauma can impact your future relationship and what you can do to set yourself up for success.