When your spouse is talking about a problem, ask what they want from the conversation – to vent or a solution? Don’t share possible solutions when all they want is a listening ear. If you are the one who is sharing, say what you want from the conversation. “I just need to vent.” “I’m feeling […]
Month: June 2021
You vs You
You’re the only thing standing in your own way. People often self-sabotage if they’re not mindful, wise, and willing. People invite problems into their lives through their own poor choices, apathy, indecision, arrogance, anxiety, selfishness, and other traits they would rather not discuss. Choose today to fight against who you once were (or are) and become who […]
Are you too cool under pressure?
Remaining cool under pressure can be wonderful. At the same time, your unruffled nature could also be mistaken as nonchalance or a lack of interest. Don’t assume that the other people know that you are taking the situation seriously. Communicate about how you are approaching the problem — even if you don’t outwardly show that […]
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [06/27/2021]
3 Conversations you might have this week What is something we both agree is ‘worth the splurge’? What do you think of when you hear the word ‘potential’? What would you rather: more time or more money? 2 Quotes to inspire you “Take small steps each day. You might not get there today, but you’ll […]
Laugh together. Love together.
Life has its stressful moments. No doubt. But, humor and laughter helps us cope. “If you can find humor in anything, you can survive it.” Being able to see the humor even in the toughest situations helps us tackle our problems with a more positive outlook. Even when you’ve had a tough day – or […]
You don’t have to react to everything that bothers you.
The energy it takes to react to every bad thing that happens to you drains you and stops you from seeing the other good things in life. It’s not the best use of your energy, attention and time. It is not possible to make people like you. You can’t get people to treat you that […]
Think differently about money and you’ll act differently around money.
So much about how we think about and act with money comes from upbringing. If those thoughts and habits are not serving you well, you can change those. Often, what is needed is a change in how you view and appreciate yourself. This is not easy, but it is integral. Stretch yourself; get out of […]
Words to Use: “Do you want to work on this with me?”
You might use these words when there is something you want to improve for yourself and for the relationship or family. “I’ve been thinking about our finances.” “I’ve been thinking about how we are parenting our child.” And then “Do you want to work on this with me?” Making it a question gives the other […]
Create a spending plan, not a budget.
There is a subtle difference between a budget and a spending plan. A spending plan is couched in empowering language and encourages thoughtful financial decisions. You might think of a ‘spending plan’ as a roadmap for how you’ll spend your money, rather than a list of ‘don’ts’ that restrict your spending — even if the […]
When it comes to money and relationships, there’s no one right way.
As a couple, talk about money. Even if it is uncomfortable (at first). Talk about what money means to each of you (are you a saver/ spender and what might be the reasons you choose that style). Talk about your life goals and how money may play into that (do you want to pay down […]