Even for just a few minutes. You’ll be less tired and stressed. You’ll be more alert and able to deal with whatever may show up over yom tov. Do whatever you can to ensure that everyone gets a nap. You’ll all be better off for it.
Month: March 2021
Expect that something will go awry.
Inevitably, something will go awry. Someone will say something you (and they) wish they hadn’t. Schedules will get off track. Something will happen with some food. There’ll be something. Even with the best planning. There is no such thing as perfection. Not for one day and certainly not over the whole yom tov. Expect that […]
Words to Use: “What’s our plan?”
When embarking on anything beyond your regular schedule, plan it together. The word ‘our’ stresses that you are both involved in the planning and implementing of the plan. Know who will do what and when. Discuss the hows. Think of potential pitfalls and prepare accordingly. Write or type it up and review together. (Print it […]
How to ask about difficult topics on a date
Sharing/ Disclosing about your ‘stuff’ There may be something that you may have heard about the person you are dating and they may not (yet) have brought it up. If you have a question you should bring it up. For starters, the information may be important to know. There may be things that you are […]
Do what you can to have a peaceful and joyful Pesach
Pesach. Wonderful family time and new family memories (or not, unfortunately ). So much is in the attitude and the planning. Here we share some practical tips and mindsets for a joyful Pesach. We gathered all of our past Pesach-related posts and a few new ones for you: Joyful Pesach What to Talk about to […]
Relationship Lessons from Pesach Cleaning
Peaceful and Joyful Pesach
Topics you might talk about before Yom Tov to make sure you both are aware and on the same page. DOWNLOAD AS PDF Family minhagim/ traditions/ memories Talk about Pesach family traditions/rituals: days leading up to the Yom Tov, special foods, the first seder, the second seder, Chol Hamoed, last days of Pesach, Acharon shel […]
Clear space = Clear mind and spirit
With all the wonderfulness of Pesach, there is also much disruption to schedule and routine. As much as practical, try to set order. Organize your kitchen and food storage as best as possible. Unpack your suitcases. Spend an hour or so planning and you’ll save yourselves and you’ll save yourselves much time (which build up […]
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [03/21/2021]
3 Conversations you might have this week What kind of memories do we want to make for our family this Pesach? What is a good balance between family traditions and adapting to the reality of who our family is? What is something you look forward to this Pesach? What is something you are anxious about? […]
Fight fair & smart
Before you begin, ask yourself why you feel so upset. Think about your feelings, and what values or needs are not being addressed. Discuss one topic at a time. Don’t dump all your frustrations. No degrading language. Discuss the issue, not the person. Express your feelings with words. Use ‘I statements’. Don’t slam doors or […]