If you are not getting the outcomes you want (or hope for), maybe it’s something you are doing (or not doing). Get to know your patterns that are not getting you the outcomes you are hoping for and take tiny steps to change those. If you don’t ask for what you want and instead hint, […]
Month: April 2022
Are you always chasing the ‘it could/should be better’ version of your life?
Somehow, we imagine a life where everything is just ‘as it should be’. In that imaginary life, we know just what to do, we always make the right decision, we never say the wrong thing, we actually do what we should be doing. But, in the real world, we don’t and won’t get it right […]
Both of you can be right.
Somehow, we were conditioned that only one person can be right in a conflict. So, if someone close to us disagrees with how we see something, with what we feel, with what we think, one of us has to be wrong. And we don’t want it to be us. That wouldn’t be good for our […]
Remember the good.
When your spouse does something wrong, remember all the things they do right. The same is true for your kids, neighbors, help and everyone else.
Feeling overwhelmed? Gain perspective to gain clarity.
Bumped into obstacles?Trying to do too much?Working in crisis mode? Those are big. Sometimes we get so caught up in the overwhelm of the situation. We might think or bemoan:“This is too much.” “It’s not fair.” “There are so many decisions to be made. I don’t know where to start.” “Why do I have to […]
Have too much to do? Change your thinking about it.
So much is about the way you think about it. Changing the way you think changes the way you feel. Instead of thinking “I should do this ….’, “I must do that …” it is much more effective to think “I could do that (or not).” This creates an opportunity to choose; having a choice […]
Relationships are a mirror of who we are.
Relationships are a mirror of who we are. This can be very helpful as a way of discovering more fully who we who and how we are. We always see ourselves when we look at the world and other people. Too often, we project the worst and best of ourselves onto others. We project the worst […]
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [4/10/2022]
3 Conversations you might have this week What would you do with an extra half hour each day? What is a food you used to eat on Pesach as a child? What is something that helps you when you are stressed or overwhelmed? What could someone do for you when you are stressed? 2 Quotes […]
How to rebound from a mistake.
Fell off track and feel like you blew the day? (Like you ate 3 donuts and now that you messed up so you’re thinking that you may as well just eat lots more junk.) Instead, think of each day as a set of four quarters: morning, midday, afternoon, and evening. If you blow one quarter, […]
A better way to respond when your buttons are pushed.
When your buttons are pushed, you can have a very strong emotional reaction, such as anger, irritation, or exasperation. But, there’s a better way to respond. If you admit it, you probably have a few hot buttons to which you are sensitive. Think about just one of those. Who and what tends to push it? […]