You’ll miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t get you where you want to go. Most of the time you just have to go for it Either you will succeed or you will learn something. Win-Win. […]
Month: December 2020
Words to Avoid: “Well, aren’t you being sensitive here?”
These words imply that there is a specific way that you expected them to respond and how they did respond isn’t it. People respond in their own ways. They are the ones who make meaning to whatever you said or did. Even if your intentions were good, their reaction is up to them. Be curious, […]
Clean up from Shabbos together
Clean up together. It is the ‘together’ part that really counts. And then comment on how nice it was to be together. You both enjoyed Shabbos in the home. Work together to clean up. Take on a tasks that the other particularly does not like doing (washing the crockpot, loading the dishwasher, whatever). Don’t wait […]
Apologize to move past a fight
It started off as a difference of perspective and somehow moved beyond a civil conversation and into a fight. Somehow, you both ended up saying things that are regrettable. Get back to loving and caring as quickly as possible. To do that, apologize for your role in the fight. Even if you were ‘totally right’, […]
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [12/27/2020]
3 Conversations you might have this week What did you do as a kid when you were bored? What is a life-hack you do to prevent potential mistakes? What would you do if you had 5 hours of uninterrupted time? 2 Quotes to inspire you “You never win any games you don’t play.” – Mark […]
It’s not what someone said; it’s what you’ve heard
“It’s not what someone said, it’s what you’ve heard.” You have the power to interpret someone’s words. The other person said some words. It’s you who gives meaning to those words. You can take those words to heart, disregard them, laugh at them, learn from them, get outraged or provoked… It’s really up to you. […]
It’s not what you say; it’s how it is heard
It’s not what you say, it is how it is heard. People take in messages based on their previous experiences. Some words might trigger a reaction. You might have said something that hit on a nerve or sensitivity. Some words have connotations to someone that you may not even realize. If someone has an adverse […]
Words to Avoid: “How do you think I am supposed to feel?”
Or similar “How did you think I would feel?” This is usually said after someone did something that hurt you – intentionally or unintentionally. The implication is that they are so insensitive and oblivious to how whatever was done or said would impact you. Instead, say how you feel. “I feel sad and alone because […]
Add important dates to your calendar
Never forget important dates. Spend a few minutes entering these into your calendar. (TIP: Set to be reminded a week before.) Add important dates to your calendar – your anniversary, your spouse’s birthday, your in-law’s dates, the birthdays of each of your children. And any other dates that are important to your spouse – even […]
Tact takes sensitivity, understanding and adaptability
“Tact is the art of making a point without making an enemy.” – Isaac Newton Tact is the ability to deliver a difficult message in a way that considers other people’s feelings and their reactions. This takes sensitivity, understanding and flexibility. Acting with tact means that you notice the circumstance and adjust the message accordingly. […]